I've always known I was adopted. As a child I don't remember it bothering me much. It's only as an adult that I've had difficulty coping or understanding the whole idea and the ways it has affected my life. Even seven years ago I denied any negative effects that resulted from this fact.
A few times when I was younger I made half hearted attempts to locate birth family but always ran into dead ends. At the time I just assumed that meant I wasn't supposed to find or know. More recently I at one point joined reunion registry, a few times tried googling info on finding birth family. Again with very little result.
A few months ago I tried google again, and somehow chanced upon the correct combination of words to get me a little further. I found a list of confidential intermediaries for Washington state. That lead me to a web page and a FB page. Which lead to a conversation. Which gave me the info that Washington is very slowly loosening up on information that they will give to adoptees. As of July 1st I could request a copy of my original birth certificate.
It came in the mail today. I spent a long time just looking at it. For the first time. I have a name. I have HER name. Granted its a ridiculously common name so I'm guessing there is still a great amount of leg work but I know her name. Such a strange and yet hopeful feeling.
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It is exciting and sad at the same time for you to know your mother's name. Are you going to try and find her, or do you need to just sit with it a while?
Whoa, I have chills. Congratulations on having that name. Knowledge can be like taking a deep breath.
That's exciting!!!
Wow! I can only imagine what you'e feeling. Good luck if you decide to continue your search.
My sister gave birth to a daughter when she was a young teen. The baby was placed for adoption right after her birth. My sister was contacted by Children's Aid when the daughter was 30 to let her know she wanted to meet her. That was 15 years ago now and it was a very successful reunion. We are all friends with her adoptive family. I hope for the same positive outcome should you proceed with your search.
This is really huge. Like fundamentally huge.
I'm excited that you have this information finally. Wow.
Wow, this is HUGE!
So happy for you.
I requested my non-identifying information in 1991 and I remember at first being somewhat paralyzed to read it, then feeling a bit numb, but oh so settled to know something, anything.
Wow! I haven't been keeping up on the blogs. Good luck with your search.
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