I've posted several times lately about having my feelings hurt or being disappointed by something seen on FB. I will openly admit that I have a sort of love hate relationship with FB. I love that it allows me to have some contact with people I probably wouldn't talk to much otherwise. Friends from my past or relatives that I don't see often or routinely call etc. On the flip side I get tired of the snarky stuff that is supposed to be funny that really isn't and the not so nice method of sharing ones beliefs about various things, not to mention the fear of sharing certain parts of my life and being judged because of those parts of my life (for instance the whole Lily and the rehoming of Lily).
So this afternoon knowing it wasn't a good idea and that I was much better off to just move on and say nothing I posted a reply to one of those "Some e-cards" on FB that tried to point out that maybe having a bit of empathy for others or not making a snap judgement about someone based on what little you see of them in a grocery store line could be an ok thing. Of course someone I didn't know responded and then responded to my response and got sort of nasty. Yes I know better. I know that everyone has their own beliefs and it's better to just move on. Logically I know this. Logically I try not to be annoyed with people I know who "like" a status or some e-card or picture that has a different view than my own. I know that there are likely many things that I "like" on FB and maybe some things that I even share on FB (I often will like a status that I agree with that may be controversial but am a lot less likely to click on share for that same status) that others disagree with or are even offended by. I hope that if someone were to reply to something in a respectful manner (I thought I did) that myself and others could just agree to disagree if they can't honestly see the other persons perspective.
I do not claim to be perfect or to have never made a mistake in judging someone else or saying or sharing something that was offensive to someone else. There are times that I know I'm being judgemental of others but I am honestly trying to work on doing this less as I know how much it bothers me to feel like I'm being judged. In my efforts to become a more empathetic person and a person that I can feel comfortable being, I'm trying to stop judging others and to look at why I catch myself feeling judgemental towards others. Sort of that thing that we dislike in others what we dislike in ourselves? Again. I'm so not perfect with this. I've got a lot of work to do.
Another down side to FB or at least for me is that I spend or waste a huge amount of time on it. Even if I'm not posting things very often I find myself spending a ridiculous amount of time lurking on FB seeing what others are doing etc. I cringe to think of totaling up all the hours I've spent on there recently while trying to avoid homework. So in the interest of my sanity and my desire to pass my next statistics test (and hopefully the class as well, which yes there is some doubt to) I'm setting myself a goal. A goal to step away from FB until at least next Wednesday. Not even a whole week but hey, baby steps. My test is on Tuesday and lets see if I can give it a break to quit wasting time and to step away from the crazy for a bit.
So this afternoon knowing it wasn't a good idea and that I was much better off to just move on and say nothing I posted a reply to one of those "Some e-cards" on FB that tried to point out that maybe having a bit of empathy for others or not making a snap judgement about someone based on what little you see of them in a grocery store line could be an ok thing. Of course someone I didn't know responded and then responded to my response and got sort of nasty. Yes I know better. I know that everyone has their own beliefs and it's better to just move on. Logically I know this. Logically I try not to be annoyed with people I know who "like" a status or some e-card or picture that has a different view than my own. I know that there are likely many things that I "like" on FB and maybe some things that I even share on FB (I often will like a status that I agree with that may be controversial but am a lot less likely to click on share for that same status) that others disagree with or are even offended by. I hope that if someone were to reply to something in a respectful manner (I thought I did) that myself and others could just agree to disagree if they can't honestly see the other persons perspective.
I do not claim to be perfect or to have never made a mistake in judging someone else or saying or sharing something that was offensive to someone else. There are times that I know I'm being judgemental of others but I am honestly trying to work on doing this less as I know how much it bothers me to feel like I'm being judged. In my efforts to become a more empathetic person and a person that I can feel comfortable being, I'm trying to stop judging others and to look at why I catch myself feeling judgemental towards others. Sort of that thing that we dislike in others what we dislike in ourselves? Again. I'm so not perfect with this. I've got a lot of work to do.
Another down side to FB or at least for me is that I spend or waste a huge amount of time on it. Even if I'm not posting things very often I find myself spending a ridiculous amount of time lurking on FB seeing what others are doing etc. I cringe to think of totaling up all the hours I've spent on there recently while trying to avoid homework. So in the interest of my sanity and my desire to pass my next statistics test (and hopefully the class as well, which yes there is some doubt to) I'm setting myself a goal. A goal to step away from FB until at least next Wednesday. Not even a whole week but hey, baby steps. My test is on Tuesday and lets see if I can give it a break to quit wasting time and to step away from the crazy for a bit.
