My neighbor has a couple of times in the past invited me to go for a walk. Last week she mentioned we should do something on the weekend but I explained I was working, maybe next week. I'm not sure she understood why I couldn't go for a walk,or something when I wasn't at work although I explained that on days I work, I work and I sleep. Seriously that's about it. So Tuesday I texted her and asked if she wanted to do something this week. She responded with "walk tomorrow" "wine Thursday" I responded with sure, either sounded good or both, she said "great". So last night it was nearly 8pm when she got home which is later than usual. Never texted or anything saying something had come up. Never said anything today or texted etc. I never heard from her this evening either. So my thought is if she doesn't have enough respect to at least text and say hey, something came up, it's not going to work, she's not really the type of person I want to make an effort to initiate plans with. Then I wonder if I'm being to harsh as it's not like they were major plans. However again it feels like a lack of respect. It wasn't that I was so disappointed we didn't go for a walk. More that if she couldn't follow through on this why would she follow through on something bigger. Also I would see this differently (at least a bit although I'd still probably be hurt) if this was a close friend I'd known for quite a while.
Am I being unreasonable in this? I will also admit that there is a part of me that tends to feel like "why bother, people will let me down" and something like this reinforces that however most of the time I'm just fine with my own company and not going crazy with loneliness since I spend a large amount of time on my own.
